Hey! So my bf wants me to try anal and he suggested i try butt plugs to get used to it. But how do i go about it? When it comes to bodily fluids coming out of me how do i stop that. I tried it once and let’s say it went in clean and came out not so clean. So does anyone have any advice on this subject?
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Enema to clean. Lotsa lube. Pretty much it.
Realistically, unless you plan for anal every time you do it. Then it’s never going to be free of let’s be real, shit. Personally, I would just get over it or not do it.
Don’t do an enema right away. That can be done but not really needed for being out.
For starters, maybe an hour before you try butt stuff, go and take a poop. Your body self cleans down there after some time.
1. Start with something small, like fingers, than a but small butt plug (you can buy a training kit, smaller to bigger) and from there you can get bigger, longer ones.
2. You can never have too much lube. If you thing you used enough, put more.
3. Sanitary wipes are good to have around. You are playing with your butt, shit happens.
4. Again, shit happens, lay down a towel or small blanket under. Makes life easier in case something falls out or a small accident.
5. Go slow and communicate if you feel pinch or pain. Do not pull back if there is any pain. Just stop and wait, if you feel OK moving forward do so but do not force things.
6. Any object you use should have a flange or edge to prevent it from going up and getting lost. You do not want to know how often my nurse friends tell me stories of what they “find” up there.
Optional rule. Putting a condom over a plug or object makes for easy clean up and if not an official butt toy will prevent many issues.
Clean as best as you can. As a man while I know my wife is very very clean, I have accepted that anal is usually reserved for the end or on some occasions the only thing she wants. When I eat her ass or have anal, its usually towards the end or we shower before we move on to other things.
Lots of lube, good communication snd trust and go easy. Im not the biggest but the first few times she couldn’t take the whole thing so little by little we went further until now she’s used to it and doesn’t take much to open up
Everyone’s advice is great. I would add: experiment for a bit. Same with any act, it may take some time to find your erogenous zone. It took me maybe a month x2-3 times a week in different positions when I first started? Don’t be discouraged if it takes a while. And don’t feel pressured if it just isn’t your thing. Just do your best to relax and enjoy the time with your partner. 👍