Throwaway account.
I am guessing this gets mentioned every now and then, to be answered with much obviousness and perhaps even frustration. I’ll apologize in advance if it bothers some veterans here to see another feller asking such a thing but it has bugged me for so long and I need advice from fellow men.
So what I mean by length is what you think it is. It’s exactly 4 in. I *know very well* that this doesn’t matter nearly as much as most guys think it does. I’ve had sex with girls before and literally none of them mentioned it. This wasn’t such an issue before I was 20 years old. But now that I am getting older and my cravings for sexual encounters are peaking, I am reaching a point where I must engage in it more often and in a healthy way lest I turn to pornography to just keep it suppressed and fester like a tumor. So I started meeting more girls.
And all of a sudden, I started getting lots of signs and hints that I really might not have enough length to the point of frustration. It could all be psychological. But the anxiety I’ve accumulated through the last two years are amounting to extremity. I feel extremely demoralized and even ashamed to be bothered by such a carnal thing when I could instead pay attention to more meaningful things when it comes to both my life and my relationship with women.
But I am now pretty much certain that this is really becoming a “bottleneck” of sorts for me. It’s begun causing a constant anxiety so heavy on my mind I’m losing grasp of my confidence and initiative. I just do not want to be someone whose head and shoulders has to be burdened by shame of not being well endowed (here I mean just like a normal dude, not anything extreme.)
This is my first time posting here and I don’t really know what kind of responses I’ll be getting. I guess I just need advice on what men with similar issues have done to overcome this mental “weight” for the lack of a better word, and if it even is purely psychological – because I am now quite sure this is also a very real physical shortcoming. I mean, I know the most important, if not the only thing that matters in a sexual encounter is chemistry. But god damn, if I am incapable of doing anything but missionary like a rabbit (excuse me for the language) I don’t know what kind of grim, insecure, defeated presence I will have to maintain for the rest of my life.
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Ignore it and keep working to be a better person. You will be fine.
Hopefully you have girth. If not there are these penis sleeves to make you longer and thicker. When it comes down to it if she cares about you it won’t matter. Now if you know how to eat pussy that puts you on a whole new level, and that is surprising easy with a lot of women. When you find her clit move your tongue in the motion of lower case vowels softly.
You cant change that. Sorry. But I think 4 inches is fine. Its a fine size.
For once – most guys do not get to the point where their dick size actually matters, so without fixing whatever else is keeping the ladies out of your bedroom, size does indeed not matter. 83% of the male population in the US is below 6 feet tall, yet a considerable number now and in the past has been able to find a woman or go through multiple relationships. These things are not hard criteria, mainly because the other – especially mental – qualities women want in men have become scarce enough for them to take priority.
There is a book by Stirling Cooper who is an active pornstar who at least claims to have increased his penis size by stretching the tissue of his member through daily efforts that he discloses in a book he published. I did not read the book; I do not know about the methods, their medical risks or their actual effectiveness but it exist and it can be purchased.
I have for my Bodysize a Small Dick and at some Point in life I’m Thinking the same like you. But then i thought about my Body grows like he grows and i can’t Change my Dicksize because it is what it is, so why i worry about.
Sure a Man with a Small/Average Dick must Working more with Angles and Foreplay, Touching, Kissing to Pleasure a Woman when you looking at the Sexual act or he must find the needle in a Haystack (a Woman who like/love a Small/Average Dick) but he can do it.
I got The Opportunity of 3 ONS, 2 Times the Woman said i have a Small Dick and I Answerd in a confident way, you are Interested in me like I’m and it is what it is, she said it doesn’t work i said ok then i wish you a Good night and i go home.
The third was looking a little bit worried and i asking jokingly do you expecting a smaller one and she apologize for her reaction but was surprised by my comparison Body and Dicksize, but we had sex and she enjoyed it.
So don’t stress your self about it.
Size does matter I really hate to be the one to say that. Good thing is that’s not the only tool to rely on. Get good with your mouth and your hands, implement toys and focus on your partner. Keep your head up loved one.
Missionary with a pillow under her hips/ass.
Could you find a woman irresistibly attractive and be rapturously satisfied by her in bed if she did *not* have giant breasts nor a giant booty?
If so, then know that women who are a good match for you will also find you every bit as attractive & satisfying even if you do not have giant genitals.
4in isn’t bad forreal. The G-spot is well within your reach, lol.
Focus on being the you you’d want to fuck. Get real good at giving head, practice mindfulness when making love, focus on the sensation of energy exchange
Unironically the best thing is just to stop worrying about it. Think to yourself can I really change this. If the answer is no then don’t stress yourself about it.
Honestly you shouldn’t worry so much about it. You’d prob get harder not being so stressed about it. But if you went the surgical route they could prob get another inch by removing some fat from your pube mound area, possibly more depending on your weight. Than if you wanted, they’ll take some of that fat and add some girth.
1) Where is this, it sounds so cultural.
2) Therapy. Self acceptance generally but certainly this. A quality person will judge you on the stuff they cannot see. Your dick means more to you then them when you connect form the heart, or at least, the Big Head. Perhaps youn eed to up your game and look for a deeper connection before consummating that with your Little Had.
* Find a woman with a smaller vagina.
* Get comfortable with toys.
* Get good at using your hands and mouth.
Talk to a doctor. There are some medical traction devices that have been found to be effective for some men.
Look into jelqing. Apparently it works.
Tongue game. Eat her out OFTEN. She probably isn’t thinking about your size as much as you. Go down and make her come and she won’t care and likely, honestly, probably already doesn’t.
Be a generous lover and who cares.