How important is money in a relationship?

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1. Crucial. There needs to be money coming from somewhere

2. More important than love itself

3. You can’t maintain a decent relationship without financial stability on both sides unless you want to bear the burden of the others financial issues get with someone who has it like you don’t settle for less love is expensive.

4. If ur the man very important if ur the women not so much.

5. I work in a very high paying field, so I didn’t expect my partner to make as much as me. I did however expect her to be an educated professional with a decent salary. It was less about the money and more about what it meant about how she managed her life.

   Same applied after I married my wife. I don’t expect her to make as much since she’s in a lower paying field but we’re both working professionals.

6. Depends on what you mean I guess. It’s important she isn’t spending more money than she is making and in debt up to her eyeballs. I mean I work hard and save/invest as much as possible. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who is trying to blow all of my money.

7. It’s not really about how much money, but how you save & spend is a reflection of your priorities and values. Therefore how you handle your money together is a huge issue.

8. Pretty important. Though what’s even more important is if we have the same attitudes towards spending and saving.

9. For me, my wife’s ability to earn was always irrelevant. That being said money in general is incredibly important up to a certain point. If you’re poor, life is going to be tough, just no getting around that. I’ve always made a pretty good income though which is why I never cared if my wife did.

10. not that much honestly since the core values are more important.

    im not gonna date a clueless idiot thats simply gonna spend the money we dont have. but i am gonna date someone who knows how to handle finances around the house and make the most with as little as possible so we can enjoy the rest.

    people honestly underestimate how tough taking care of a house is and raising a family and it shows since the majority of people are to obsessed with career success, independence or god knows what the media has fed them.

    those are worthless and ive know and still know people with extremely successful careers and at the end of it have less then someone earning half of what they earn. both in time, material and quality of life.

11. I divorced a woman making 15k/year, and ended up with a woman making 20 times that.

    How much do YOU think my life changed?

    You bet your ass money matters.

12. The number doesn’t matter so much as shared values surrounding money. If you pair up a penny pincher and a six-figure income that’s gone before it’s arrived, there’s going to be problems. If you pair up significantly mismatched incomes it’s likely to lead to some conflict, like hedge fund manager dating a Subway sandwich artist.

    So for me, the numbers aren’t the big deal but if we don’t have at least similar goals there’s a problem. If I’m trying to build a retirement fund but partner spent all our money on a used hot air balloon, we’re going to have problems.

13. Same advice for money in general: it’s not everything, but just try getting alone without it.

14. Is this your first day on earth?

15. It’s not that important to me. I make a good living and could care less if she makes more, the same, or less than me. Money is less important to me than surrounding myself with the right people to share my life with.

16. It’s tough. I don’t actually care about the money. I make plenty. So I don’t really make it a priority. But then some time down the line we get married or move in together, now she just stops working because why bother? Her income is a fraction of mine. So then I start to resent her for becoming a dependent, not a partner. Or just the fact I’m out working 8-9 hours a day and she’s just sitting at home or whatever.

17. In general, very. Everything requires money. Even relationships. How much money varies massively.

18. As long as they live below their means.

19. Meh. I care about love, happiness, compatibility. I need enough money to be comfortable.

    And ya know… people can have goals and maybe they haven’t achieved them. I think you should be by someone’s side when they aren’t successful yet… not come running once they are successful.

    I care that someone is ambitious though.

20. Money itself? Not much.

    Stewardship in regards to money? Quite a bit.

    The amount of money or lack thereof isn’t nearly as important as the combined efforts of handling money and compatible methods

21. Money plays a big role. Its looked upon if “your in debt” buying luxery items which you don’t need. Versus things what you need.

    Essentially its a core value (what is the money used for) and how its being spent.

22. It’s important. But you need to make sure you don’t put it above everything like I did.

    I spent years focusing on money and my career while pushing the woman I love aside and not giving her any praise for the work she does. I thought her job in food service was just menial and just a bit of pocket money. Because of that she felt like she was worthless and I just told her to get a better job. She has no degree or any kind of qualifications that would get her one.

    Because I wanted to give our children a good life I put my career and money before my wife. I told her my career and financial stability for the children came first and neglected her. Now I’ve lost her in every way but physically. She won’t leave but she won’t love me anymore

    Money won’t hold you at night…..