I (F18) have been in a relationship with my (M18) boyfriend for 9 months but have been best friends for 4 years. I trust him completly and he might even be the one. I know all the generic advice, take your time, be safe and have fun but I am looking for the real advice, the put a pillow under your lower back ones, that’s what I am interested in. I’ve never had an orgasm and I doubt that it will happen now so that is not my end goal. Any tips?:)
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When he does something that feels good tell him that and have him keep doing exactly that.
I know you said no generic ones, but just in case. Remember you can stop it at any time, for any reason. And, no, there shouldn’t be pain.
I would avoid penetration the first time, just explore your bodies and play with them; let him eat you out, jerk him off, etc.
But when you do get to PIV, avoid positions with deeper penetration, and focus instead in shallower positions, like missionary. Also, if you get on top, you will be in control of how much you get in, and you’ll make sure to not take in more than you can manage.
The best advice, imo, is to remember that you can always slow down or take breaks at any time. Sex should feel good and NOT painful (even for your first time), so if something hurts don’t endure it, stop and adjust
Communicate what you like and don’t like for sure. And don’t worry if one of you doesn’t climax, it’s about the journey, not the destination. The more you communicate, the better it will be.
I hope you have fun, OP!