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>Maybe Im really bad at sex and none of my previous partners didn’t have the heart to tell me
Being good or bad at sex is probably less relevant than whether you’ve actually been pursuing relationships properly. Whether romantic relationships or FWB ones.
Maybe it’s not the sex
I think thats not the case. You think you are bad at sex and thats why you have no one night stands. How? Do guys read from your eyes “bad at sex”? No way. Even if you were bad, which I doubt, you would have sex, just without much pleasure for you or your partners.
Issue is somewhere else. Maybe you are self conscious. Maybe you are overthinking. Maybe you do not go out enough. Maybe you do not talk with others enough. Maybe you do not try to have sex. Maybe sth else.
Doubt it is the reason you mentioned.
Well… do you WANT to have something else besides one-night stands, like… say… a relationship with someone?
If so, you’ll need to take a slower approach and actually get to know the other person first, before jumping into bed with them.
It’s the difference between fast food and a gourmet meal.
There’s no such thing as being ‘bad at sex’ on a first date/ONS.
Good sex takes practice with *specific* people, because everyone is different. Lovers who are versatile and satisfy their partners even in ONS are that way because they’re actually good communicators and empaths with an almost scientific curiosity, not gifted love machines. They know what feedback to look for to adapt their act, they have plenty of experience to draw from and they are genuinely invested into pleasing their partner.
Going off of that, I’d wager you have a connection-related roadblock. Maybe it’s just me, but I wouldn’t even think of discounting a woman because our first sexual contact wasn’t fireworks. These one-night-stands probably started like that and weren’t supposed to go any further. If I were you, I’d just adjust my dating criteria and start looking for other things, while making it clear you’re not only interested in sex.