As the title suggests, I used to be able to have sex for a “satisfying” amount of time. I’m talking about like 15-45 minutes of consistent love making, depending on what me and my gf were feeling.
However, over time that has turned into me basically topping out at 10 minutes. This isn’t a complaint from my gf, because she is still able to reach climax. However, I would like it to last longer because I just enjoy the closeness, the intimacy, and the fun.
I’ve tried different positions, taking breaks, getting my mind to focus on something else if I’m feeling “close” etc. it seems like all of those things that used to work, no longer work.
I have a slight hunch that it is due to my masturbation habits. I masturbate on average once per day, and majority of those days I’m going for “speed” instead of relaxed, prolonged stimulation. Have I possibly trained my body over time to orgasm as fast as possible?
I also have definitely let this get to my head and it causes me anxiety, hence the post here. I feel like when I know I’m going into a sexual moment with my SO, I immediately start to worry about how long im going to last. I know this is a psychological thing, but idk how to fix it.
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If you’re going to masturbate, train yourself with edging and practice taking breaks.
Same thing happened to me, I’m around the same age too (28). In my early 20’s I actually struggled with finishing at all during sex, now I’m having the opposite problem. My “solution” is just to have sex twice in a row (with a 30-45 minute break in between), I can usually last much longer on the second round, but of course it’s often a struggle to find the time to fit two consecutive sessions in. Also simply jerking off earlier in the day doesn’t seem to do much for my longievity in bed unfortunately, prior sex is the only thing that really lets me last longer (without having to stop every minute to calm down, which is no fun for anyone really).
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