I am curious on how the thought process works when it comes to having an actual long term monogamous relationship with another? How long before you knew it was serious, and what steps did you take to convey how serious you were about the other person? When would be an appropriate time to start introducing them to your family and friends? How did you know you wanted to be with this person?
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Once farts are exchanged and accepted, I know its love
I usually know what box I’m putting the chick in by around date 4-10. Often sooner if there is no real interest on my end.
Depending on what I’m actually looking for and how the dates are going she is either a no interest, potential fwb, potential short term or a potential long term. The requirements get higher the further down that list you go.
Honestly, it’s almost instantaneous.
It’s an organic process. I will keep seeing someone for as long as we enjoy each other and make each other’s lives better, and the relationship will gain depth and significance as time goes on.
I didn’t do monogamt or introduce my partners to my family. These things have nothing to do with whether we’re are going to be long term or not.
For me relationships grow organically. If long term goals align and are worked on then they are my partner for this planned future. If there are no plans or they cannot be made to align in an agreeable way … well then there is not much of a future (that can be fine if all involved are on the same page).
Meeting family and friends are more anchor points which allow for certain things to happen (I do not view them as milestones that need to be reached). But also maybe not needed depending on how the relationship should look like. But for classical western monogamous relationships … friends after a few weeks to months, family after a few months to maybe two years top?