So iv been dating this girl for 6 months, its kind of a long distance relationship as we are an hour apart from eachother. Im in a position where i dont know if i can be with her anymore.
When we first met she worked in the kitchen of a night club, iv never really liked the idea of dating someone who works in a night club, its just my personal preference, but as she worked in the kitchen i could deal with it.
Anyways a month ago she started working in the bar, we had a talk about it and she explained she has to flirt to get tips, i made my concerns clear that i didn’t really like it and i dont know if i have it in me to date someone who works in a bar. I have not and would never ask her to change jobs because firstly im not controlling and secondly even if she did quit without me asking i know she would resent me so if she suggested it i would say not to, anyway she has already made it very clear she wouldn’t quit.
The very same day we had that talk she went to work later on that night and ended up coming home with some guys number. The next day i went round her house and i stayed there while she went to work in the evening. While she was at work, i was tiding up things around the bed and found a piece of paper folded up so it was real small, i was going to throw it away but thought id check first incase it was something important which is when i see it was a guys number.
I questioned her and she said some guy offered her a job and gave her hes number. This has led me to become suspicious.
Also lately iv been observing how she acts around other guys after a drink and she comes across way too friendly to the point it looks likes shes flirting. She also has a guy best friend who i think she seems way too close with, the first night i met him he was prepared to cheat on hes girlfriend with one of my girlfriends friends, so i instantly knew i have to wary of this guy and would never trust him around my girl on their own.
I love this girl and she loves me but these things have become a big issue for me and i know i will never be ok with her working in a club and it will always play on my mind especially when she tells me all the compliments she gets.
I really dont feel happy and i can feel it changing me.
I know the only option is for me to walk away but the question im asking is how do i go about it, what do i say without sounding insecure?
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