I (22F w/ADHD) always find it so difficult to orgasm, even while masturbating. I get close but don’t want to get that big finish….I’m just like okay that’s good enough. My partners in the past have always gotten frustrated with it but I get so uncomfortable (??) when i’m close to finishing. Does this make sense/anyone else experience this? It seems so dumb bc that’s the whole point of sex is having that orgasm and feeling good, but like i’m good enough without it and don’t feel like i’m missing anything??
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Sounds like a mental thing, find a partner whos willing to find out how to make you more comfortable
The point of sex isn’t to orgasm. The point of sex is to have fun and enjoy it. If you don’t need orgasm to enjoy sex, that’s fine.
But it seems like you might have some anxiety around orgasm itself. Can you identify what that anxiety feels like? Are you worried it will be too intense? Does it feel physically overwhelming? Are you afraid it actually won’t happen? Or is this tension even fear, or is it something else? I’d think about those things and take some time when you masturbate by yourself to try figuring this feeling out and decide if it’s something you think you want to overcome or if you can still enjoy sex and masturbating fully without it.