I’m a 31 man who has a several kinks that typically involve me being the top/dominant or a “neutral” one, such as tickling, feet, spanking, hosiery, bondage…etc
These alone don’t really cause me any feelings of shame anymore after finding out that I certainly wasn’t alone. However, there is one reoccurring fantasy of mine that is really embarrassing for me to admit and it involves an older woman playing the role-playing a loving, but strict disciplinarian who pulls my underwear down and gives me painful spankings across her lap when I need guidance. Ironically, the embarrassment I feel from having this fantasy is also what drives my lust for it. Is it possible that the reason I feel so embarrassed by this particular scenario is because it involves playing a submissive role for a change? I can’t think of any other reason why because being spanked by a woman isn’t an unusual fantasy/kink at all. How do you deal with negative feelings like these?
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You’re having difficulty imagining yourself in a submissive role. It’s fine, it is possible to “switch” from dom to sub and if you switch a lot that is what you are called, a switch.
It’s a different feeling being a sub than being a dom, different kind of pleasure. It’s okay to explore that different kind of pleasure. The just letting go and letting someone else control you for a little while. Ego death almost. It can be refreshing.
It’s not going to take away from how dominant you are in other areas of your life.