Recently i moved into an apartment with two really good friends of mine. I must be clear tho, I did all the work in securing the apartment. I found the place, toured it, and organized the safety deposit on the place. My other two room mates are completely clueless on how apartments work. They don’t know how to set up our utilities and need to be hand held through everything. I’m also the only one that has a job atm and i have the highest income. Naturally, i took the largest room. My room mate however has recently asked me to switch rooms with him. I don’t want to but i also don’t want this to be a source of contention either. he’s a good friend of mine. specifically he expressed to me that he doesn’t have enough space in his room for all his stuff and that he has some mental health issues and feels that a larger space will allows him to breathe a bit more. I don’t particularly want to give up the room but to give it up is also unfair to myself. I’m not sure what to do.
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Okay, so when I went to uni I was homeless outside of my uni accommodation. I had to have everything I owned in a tiny room that barely fit a desk and a single bed. I know that clutter can have an impact on mental health. However, it would impact you and your boundaries to just roll over and switch.
Talk to him about alternatives. A good shout is having the bedroom as a place for rest and relaxation. Maybe you can all use the communal space for storing some other stuff so that you guys don’t have to have all of your stuff in the bedroom. Alternatively maybe your friend needs some help coming up with a better organisation system.
The crux of the matter is, if you do leave you are going to feel taken advantage of because you do so much of the mental load that you need your space and literally paid for it.