My friend and I decided two months ago on a whim that we were going to move to another city together. We decided that it was best if I moved out of my place and stayed with him for 2 months, paying some of the rent until it was time for us to leave. However this past month I have seen a different side of him. He is physically violent and starting fights with strangers, he isn’t helping look for places, he is out partying spending money on drugs, drinking, and driving, when he should be saving money, and when I asked him how he was going to pay for his half he said he didn’t know.
He freaked out a few weeks ago saying he didn’t know how he was going to pay for anything and I told him id be willing to help with some of it. I feel like I made the mistake of telling him how much I am getting in even though I don’t have a job because after that he kept partying and spending money. I was the only one calling to look for apartments, talking to leasing agents, crunching the numbers, and staying in to save money. I asked him if he was going to take out a loan to help pay and he said no he doesn’t want to mess up my credit but he knows I’ve been taking out loans and I have worse credit.
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The worst part is when I brought all of this stuff up he started crying saying he doesn’t understand what changed after I told him I was really frustrated that I’m doing all of the work, when I was just asking him to help look for places, he said he doesn’t like people telling him what to do with his money when I told him if he doesn’t have any money he should try taking out a loan because I didn’t sign up to be the only one paying for anything. And he lied saying that he’s been calling realtors and talking to people but he didn’t tell me because I was doing homework.
Should I just bail? I don’t want to live with someone who doesn’t take this stuff seriously, I feel like I have to force him and coach him into doing things he should already be doing.
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Too many red flags OP. Too many red flags. Save yourself before you get in too deep. You deserve better.
I think you have your answer in your last paragraph. If you don’t want to live with him don’t do it.
It isn’t something like a trip or vacation, it is something more permanent so you need to think about your future.