I have been always been both open minded and skeptical about polyamory.
It has now been the second time a woman I was dating in a “polyamory” fashion went back to monogamy with another guy. It’s a pattern now. Closing your relationship is just hypocritical if you started polyamory.
Let’s be honest and stop the polyamory non-sense.
People who babble about polyamory are just in short of partners, and cannot be happy being single, so they just collect partners until they find one they like enough to get into a relationship.
It’s always the people who just got out of a marriage, or who feel lost in their feelings and love life.
Sorry for the rant, but I really want to start being a little critical about the polyamory thing (and all its vocabulary), because to me, it’s just another ponzi scheme for needy people who want to recruit others for more quantity of love.
I have no issue dating someone who dates other people, I’m not jealous or anything, I’m okay with it. But closing a polyamory relationship is just so hypocritical.
I bet there are plenty people with low social skills who fall into this, and honestly I think I’m going to start to demand exclusivity from now on.
Men can’t always afford to be selective (law of nature etc), but I think I’m going to be more picky with women, it will feel much better for my self esteem.
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People are allowed to try something and change their mind…. It’s not hypocritical.
You’re complaining that women don’t want to fuck you? Like they be fucking you but then they break it off for a monogamous relationship with another guy? Like what’s the difference between her closing a poly relationship and just not wanting to fuck you? She may be letting you down easy.
Also you were never promised a long term or exclusive relationship so why do you care?
As a F, that’s an easy excuse for a woman to let you know she’s not into you anymore. It’s kinder to say I’m not feeling the poly thing, than it is to say I’m just not feeling YOU.
i’ve successfully practiced polyamory for almost five years now. the only experience i have that even remotely resembles this was me and my monogamous best friend briefly attempting to date and it not working out, which was completely fine, we’re still as close as we were before.
is your viewpoint really that once you’re practicing polyamory you can never go back to monogamy? that sucks and makes no sense at all. i would never choose to go back to monogamy personally but there’s nothing wrong with people trying out different relationship structures to figure out what works most authentically for them. that should be the default, actually.