Hey everyone, I’m 22M, been struggling a bit with this lately.
Growing up, I never had any trouble socializing and making good friends as a teenager. It wasn’t until I moved to a new country for college did things start getting a lot more difficult.
Since I was 19, I never really had any irl friends over the past few years. I don’t think I’m an introvert but I’m very, very shy which makes going out hard.
Recently I got a roommate and I’ve been trying to be friendly like how I used to be but I feel like I’ve changed. I feel like I’m too nice all the time now and its difficult to relax and have fun just because I haven’t been social for years. I think it has affected my self confidence as well.
Just wondering if anyone can relate? They say in college is where you become more social but that wasn’t the case for me
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I think you’ve drawn into your shell a lot. You probably over think things too much which causes you to be quiet and uncomfortable. One thing that we forget is how similar we all are. The coolest dude you see, and even the most beautiful woman, are both self conscious—just like you.
I bet you’re an awesome dude, just be more confident. Be yourself and you’ll draw in the people who’ll actually like you for you. Good luck out there! If you have any questions, feel free to ask. I’m an introvert and a social butterfly—so, I know both sides of the coin.
Can relate (22M) i just feel like trying to go up to someone and start a convo would seem wrong. Like the person would think “why is this random person talking to me”. So i usually never speak to anyone and sort of dry reply to any one who does some small talk.