At work I sometimes have conversations with a group of people who talk about something I know nothing about. I know one person, but I am new to the rest. They talk about topic A. So I just stay quiet since I cannot contribute anything. I believe this leaves a bad impression, since I am seen as a “meek” person with nothing to bring to the table in social interactions.
Have you had similar experiences? How do you navigate these situations to avoid this problem?
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If you don’t know something ask a question about it
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I used to feel the same way but if you start paying attention everyone frequently finds themselves in the same position in groups depending on the changing topics. And if you’re the one talking you don’t really think of the non-participating parties as losers, do you? You don’t even notice them. It’s just a normal thing that happens, says nothing about you or your social skills.
Ask some questions every once in a while, and speak up. It’s not annoying and it shows that you’re interested in the conversation.
I have this problem too! I think active listening and looking interested counts for a lot. People can typically be on their phones/distracted with other things, so just looking invested in the conversation is helpful. Maybe have a few generic questions ready if there is a moment where you can contribute. If you are comfortable with the one person you know, you could tell them how you’re feeling. I doubt anyone is thinking you’re leaving a bad impression! I usually try to form more one-on-one bonds with people at work so in big groups I feel like I have a few “safe” people.