So i have been talking to a guy online(we haven’t met yet but it’s very possible that we meet in future) and we two definitely have a mutual attraction which we have both confessed. I have always been shy about admitting that i like him too unlike him, he makes it clear whenever necessary. Now the thing is that last night while we both were on call, things started getting heated up. It was the first time i was having audio call sex and he was definitely leading the entire thing since i has no clue what to do. Things were going pretty amazing BUT he stopped right before i was about to finish saying “I think it’s enough for one day” it actually took me a moment to register the fact that he asked to stop whatever we were doing. I asked him why he wants to stop and he said, “I have done it before on call but you haven’t, i want you to have a good first time experience so we shouldn’t be rushing” while it’s every kind of him to take me into consideration, i didn’t like it at all. I actually wanted to do and when he asked to stop, it felt like a rejection. I never wanted to do it in the first place but yeah, i went with the flow and now i regret showing him the intimate side of me. He said we’ll take things further the second time we do it but i know for sure that i don’t have any plans to show that side of mine anytime soon. Idk why I’m making it a big deal. He texted me between his work time asking if i am fine and i said “I’m good as i should be” ughhh. He knew i wasn’t happy with what he said. For me it’s like, you shouldn’t back out after getting me heated up. He sensed it and said ok let’s just continue with it but i wasn’t in the mood by then. Am i overreacting? I think i am and i just want an excuse for my frustration rn.
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Sounds like you were just in the moment and wanted to finish! You’re just disappointed, Don’t read too much into it
Not overreacting according to me. I think he was a bit selfish as well, he might have finished and didnt want to put in more effort.
I think he was kind of trying to get you to enjoy it and ease you into it. Think of it like an in person date. You make out and have some heavy petting but then just go your separate ways, you are still hot and bothered but you are thinking of the good time you just had.
Sounds like that is what he was going for but you wanted the full experience.
Talk with him and tell him that you liked it up until he stopped (if this is true, not trying to make assumptions for you). You felt a bit rejected after and hurt.
lol so this guy stopped for no reason? Nah, he’s so wrong for that. He knew you were enjoying it and chose not to continue. He sounds mad manipulative too. It was his idea and you went a long with it but he didn’t want you to enjoy it too much????
When you are on the phone it is much more complicated to be assessing the other person’s state of arousal, at least for me. In person, there are a lot more signals you can see, hear better, etc. I don’t typically make excuses for guys, but I am guessing he didn’t understand the progression of your state of arousal. Even for some people (maybe many), they need to ask whether the other person had an orgasm when together physically.
Hot take: maybe he’s leading you on so you will yearn for more & want more sex with him in the future. Dick move nonetheless, but I have a feeling thats what he’s doing here