When asking your SO for their opinion on a talent/project/something you personally did, and it sucked, how honest would you want them to be?

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1. Usually if I did something that sucked I wouldn’t need to ask my SO to know that. I’d already be aware.

   On the off chance your SO doesn’t know I’d probably be tactfully honest about it.

2. I would want to know any ideas you have to improve it. Ffs this just brought up angry memories of my ex. Everytime I show her a song shes says “oh, cool.” no thoughts whatsoever

3. They can be honest with me all the way, just not be rude. You can be honest and also respectful. Constructive criticism helps.

4. I don’t bring up something I did while working on a hobby if I think it’s shit, my ego likes the perception of being effortlessly talented at “all things”. I think generally people want some kind of validation when they know they suck at something so a “oh, that’s cool” or “wow, you’ve gotten better” or “nice, when’s the next project should do the trick.

5. I can handle honest criticism but it doesn’t mean i would want them to be 100% honest especially if i triedmy best

6. Just ask, “Before we start, what kind of feedback do you want? Support or criticism?”

   Sometimes people just want to show you something and to know you support them without criticism. So it’s good to ask.

7. I always say something positive, then the negative and then words of encouragement. Probably from my many years teaching swimming to kids who ask me “teacher! Are you watching me? Did i do good?” It’s in the training.

8. As honest as possible

9. I expect an honest assessment. My wife expects support when she asks. I know better than to criticize.

10. I’d rather total honesty, otherwise what’s the point in asking if you’re only going to get platitudes?

11. Give some constructive criticism but be sensitive about it

12. Completely and be as detailed as possible can’t improve if you don’t know what’s wrong.