I am a second semester senior (f) at a medium size state school. My freshman year I had several close female friends at school, and a close friend group from highschool. My close female friends from freshman year all either transferred or graduated by my sophomore year, and then covid struck. Covid killed my social life dang near completely. Now, I’m a second sem senior with a small (but close) group of guy friends. Problem is, I am desperate for some fulfilling friendships with other women. Since covid, I have developed social anxiety (working on making that better) and a better understanding of what kind of female friendships I’d like to have. The female friends I have had since freshman year have been temporary, flaky, thrived on boy-drama (I’m in a LTR, can’t relate to that), or wanted to party and drink all the time (I’m mostly sober by choice). Any tips on how to find quality friends when it seems like everyone is closed to new friendships? Should I just focus on graduating and make effort to form female friendships after college?
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Following because I’m on the same situation
Well, it’s March. If you’re a senior in your 2nd semester, that means you’re in semester 8 out of 8, and won’t ever see any of these people again after mid-May. So yeah, I wouldn’t worry about making a friend for … 5 weeks? .. when the people most worth knowing will be studying for finals. Which you should be doing. Unless you want to end up in a 9th semester of college? In that case, the best time to make friends is in late August/ early September.
(I graduated in May, so my assumption is that you’ll be out of college in a month and a half.)
Make sure you get that done NOW because after you graduate and are dumped into society, making friends is 1000x more difficult.