Some background info:
I’m super inexperienced in all things intimate and I’m still pretty much a virgin, never really been in a relationship or successful with hookups etc. I have a lot of bad experiences with women and progressives and I still struggle with freezing up around women I’m interested in. As a result I don’t know what kind of relationship would suit me. I have done a lot of therapy, yes. I no longer hang out in inc\*l spaces etc. but I get triggered very easily. I realize this is a huge turn off, but thats how I turned out to be as a human. I still would like to meet someone though.
It would be interesting to see how I come off?
Edit: Closing down link for privacy. Thanks for the feedback and encouragement!
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Dating is supposed to teach you what sort of relationship suits you, so get yourself out there and get to know people and yourself in the process. Doesn’t matter how messed up you were, we all evolve emotionally. 😊
Can’t see your profile.
I will say that a profile picture of you smiling and in color will do you way more better than one in black and white and not showing teeth.
I really appreciate and respect your honesty. Some may say you don’t know how to get along with women, and you may just be socially awkward. Either is fine as long as you know exactly who YOU are.
I would add more pics of you smiling with teeth and make sure one of them is your first picture. I’d add some pics with friends & maybe doing an activity (the standard advice). Also, make sure your posture is good in all pics. This is more of a preference, but I highly recommend Hinge over Tinder, but that’s me. You’re not a bad looking guy, good luck!
Can you add screenshots showing the text on your profile? I don’t have Tinder so I can only see the photos.
You look cute though! I wouldn’t have assumed you were part of anti-women spaces.
I think you’re attractive. Seriously. You’re not Brad Pitt but without knowing your background, I wouldn’t think you would have a hard time. But because you are, it’s probably energy or social etiquette making things uncomfortable. Do you consider yourself socially or self aware? I think you have good potential in finding a mate, you look good for 37! It’ll be internal work you’ll probably have to do and so glad to hear you’re doing it.
In terms of photos, see if you can take photos that make you more relaxed and fun. If you don’t smile often, practice a relaxed smile in front of a mirror. Wishing you good luck!
friend you aren’t too different than me, I didn’t really have any intimacy until past 30 and it was very nerve wracking and I even struggled with ED as a result (still do sometimes). in my 20s I basically accepted / ignored the problem and focused on career.
I would liken it to a job interview, you will fail the first few, maybe embarrassingly but eventually with experience all things will feel better as long as you keep an improvement mindset and be accountable. Dating is only a big deal if you make it out to be. Same with sex.