Title, pretty much. I asked him if he can go month to month on his lease since it’s up soon (end of this month), and that I was asking because I’m not sure that I’m ready to move in together yet. His first response was “ah, there it is.” And he grabbed his car keys to leave my house. I asked him what he meant and he just told me to let him know when I think I might have an answer for when I’ll be ready or change my mind. He then mumbled under his breath that he’ll just find a place to live on his own instead. I asked him to repeat himself and he said “nothing, have a great night.” I told him that wasn’t a productive conversation, and then he left.
I don’t really know what else to say at this point because it doesn’t seem like he’s even willing to talk to me about this. I’m kind of shocked, but also not shocked because he tends to shut down and become dismissive when I bring up my feelings.
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And yet you want to date this person and move in together?????
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May I ask WHY???
Well it’s a good thing you found out what he’s actually like before moving in together!
Well, had you previously promised to move in together?
If this kind of stomping out in annoyance is typical of your mutual problem solving, I suspect you would be very trapped in a 1-year lease.
It sounds like he had realy wanted to take the next step with you. And being let down he completely shut down. It wasn’t the right way to react to your news, but not entirely unexpected.
From how i read this, tell me if i’m wrong, you had descussed moving in together and had agreed to. Then changing your mind you told him you had. Assuming this is what happened then he was realy within the normal bounds to react as he did.
Also an assumption, do you change your mind like this somewhat frequently regarding important things? If so maybe take more time in evaluating your decisions before giving answers.
Seems like you have doubts for a reason. Your brain is trying to knock some sense into your heart.
Do not live with the pouty mumbler.
Be glad you’ve seen this side of him before you moved in.
He has a point tbh if u guys are dating why not move in
Girl don’t do it. There’s something telling you the answer. It won’t get better if you move in. He may have a right to feel upset but by the way it sounds from your explanations I would stick to your plan of not being ready.