I (48M) have been single a couple of years following my divorce. Right after I created a profile on tinder, met a couple of people, but nothing serious and nothing lasting very long. At some point I got ghosted a lot so I started swiping left on everyone and occassionally matching only with people who liked me first. That lead only to more ghosting and lately I was even yelled at for “having unrealistic expectations” (I don’t want kids). So gradually I kind of stopped caring about this. That’s one thing.

What’s more important is and I never expected that but as I started doing things I enjoy and it became routine, every time I see a new like on the app I’m thinking why should I even match with them. I mean I like the life I have a lot, I would need to change it to accommodate them and frankly I don’t think I want to. Keeping in touch, making time for them, etc. seems like such a hassle. I really enjoy doing some things all by myself (like hiking) and I doubt they would understand. If I were in their shoes I probably wouldn’t. On the other hand I guess sometimes I could go for a walk or ride a bike with someone. I don’t know should I make myself meet people or give up on it alltogether. Thoughts?

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