My boyfriend is the absolute best and I want to do more to show him just how much I love him. (I’ve asked him and he said he isn’t sure what he would want) I thought I’d start making him a fruit bowl and a tea (in a travel mug so it’s still warm) before I leave for work (he gets up 1hr after I leave on a weekday). It got me thinking, what are small things you do for your SO just because you love them?
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You really should find out what each other’s love languages are and go from there.
My wife’s main live language is acts of service. I like to get up with her and make her breakfast and pack lunch for work on my days off. I write a little love note and put it in there as well.
Because I have a terrible memory, I have a note in my phone that’s just a list of things he likes.
Even if he mentions the smallest thing in passing I’ll pop it down.
Then if I feel like doing something nice for him I can jump into that list for inspiration.
He also loves it when I send him things like songs that make me think of him or just photos of random stuff I see that I just want to share with him because I love him.
Could be hepful if you remember small stuff he says he needs/ notice when stuff he uses on a daily get deteriorated overtime and replace them.
Also, small things like care packages for him to find after a long day with his favourite sweets/crisps or small notes for him to find around his house/car with nice messages to brighten up his day.
Bringing him snacks when he s busy or cook him his preffered food/order it as a surprise every now and again.
Good luck!
Hugs and telling her how much she means to me. Guys don’t hear compliments enough Try that while giving him a hug.
Smell nice. Looks nice. Jeans are fitting mighty fine today. Etc. Small things.
Depends on the person.
My husband is big on acts of service and time spent. So I will do things for him like clean his desk or cook or watch his favourite show with him even if I don’t enjoy it
I prefer words and acts of service, so he gets me hot water bottles for my feet at night because they get cold and refills my water bottle often and tells me how pretty I look during the day.
Find out what makes him happy
Sometimes it’s the small things in life people do for each other that mean the most. Not saying not to do a big thing. But, not everybody can do those big things for people they love.
I leave little sweet notes stuck in different places, his car, laptop screen, wallet etc
I lean his slippers up against our heating vent so they are warm when he gets home
I buy his favorite snacks, fill his gas tank up, buy him clothes, cook his favorite dinner, in winter I put his towel or jacket in the dryer to warm it up.
Always looking for more ideas too
Pay attention to what they do for you, it’s usually their love language and what they’d like you to do for them even if they dont ask
I send my bf a ‘good morning handsome’ text each morning because he leaves so early. Also being the big spoon is a good way of showing how much you care
Complimenting him – to me, he’s the most attractive person that’s walked this earth. Thanking him when he does me a favour. (It’s 3 years in and he still opens the door to the car for me, I always remember to say thank you)
Remembering little things he needs and randomly buying them (a new pair of sandals, etc). We make eachother lunch and dinner without asking. Bringing eachother back something small when we go and hang out with other people. Hugs, cuddles, kisses… I don’t know if there’s anything we do specifically to go above and beyond? But I feel like we keep eachother in mind in whatever we do 🙂
My SO isn’t your SO so the things I do may not be relevant to your situation. Try paying attention to his habits and take your cues from that. If he likes fruit and tea your ideas might be perfect. Some other guys might appreciate having an evening when you go visit friends so they can have some time alone. Others might want a specific kind of home cooked meal. What a man will appreciate all comes down to that individual man’s wants and needs. So learn to recognize what will make him happy. Good luck.
I’m not big on receiving things. I mean it’s obviously a good thing. I think many guys are like this also.
What reinforced my marriage was her noticing things I did that were positive for her. And what *would have* reinforced it even more were remembering those things when we start having conflict instead of immediate acting like I never did a thing for her. Sorry that is some self drama insert.
So I’d say talk to him more and try to figure out what lists him up. And on top of that just remember the good even when you’re maybe feeling negative about him.