Basically the title, I (24M) have been in a FB relationship with a girl (24F) I’ve met a couple of months ago. Just yesterday we had a talk and agreed to be exclusive. We are not “in love” for each other but we like each other enough and enjoy our time (and sex) together. Unfortunately my best friends really don’t like her (when I asked why they said that they just don’t feel a good vibe) and say I “waste” too much time with her (I know they exaggerating here but still). These two worlds usually don’t cross over but I would like that they at least be civil. What I’m “affraid” is, since they are a third (external) party, maybe they see some issues, incompatibilities or red flags that I (with my “pink glasses”) don’t. Any advice for this situation? Thank you in advance and sorry for any mistakes
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– “Just don’t feel a good vibe” Weak unconvincing argument they come with. They should’ve come with a real example on a redflag.
– Do your friends have good personality themselves?
– Some guys like creating drama to get some exitement in their life.
– Remember it’s happening on the detriment of your well-being and sabotaging your relationship.
– People project their character or problems and frustrations on people. It’s easier for them to make a person the scapegoats for their problems.
– Tell them to mind their bussiness.
– Learn from the beginning to not let people’s opinions dictate your life.
– People have different styles, mindsets, personalities, tastes and values.
– If something goes wrong in your life, no-one will live with the consequences, pain or hurt, but you.
– Find friends who are in good relationships. You’d relate better to them.
At a guess if you told them how you are in the relationship only for the sex and company not love I’d imagine they wouldn’t really like that. But I’m someone who can’t imagine being in a relationship without being inlove… casual sex I get totally. But casual sex relationship? Idk seems weird.
Totally personal opinion and you should double check with your friends for info
In my experience, if they’re good friends of yours, they might be able to see something that you cannot. Sometimes it takes an outside perspective, one that is not clouded by emotion, to see a flaw in something that you’re involved in. With some of my past relationships, I wish I would have listened to my good friends’ opinions, and it might have saved me a lot of pain down the road.
That being said, if they can’t give you a good reason, then I wouldn’t be too concerned, but I would at least think about what they have to say.