So I share a unit with 5 roommates. They are quite collective and they chat in the living room a lot. But one of them, let’s call her Fish, refused to lower her volume when I asked her to do so. The thing is I did asked her with a POLITE, DECENT manner.

“Fish, could you lower your volume because I’m having online classes now?”

She literally ignored me because she maintained her wall-piercing volume throughout my entire class.

She is loud to the extent that, I am on the second floor, in my room, door shut, noise cancellation headphones on, and yet I STILL HEAR HER.

It’s super scary and I’ve written a message to her telling her how she has affected my class and sleep because sometimes I wake up to her voice in the morning and it’s difficult for me to get back to sleep. And yes I do put in earplugs but on some unlucky days they fall out in the morning.

The thing is I don’t know if there is a way to let her shut the fk up. She is clearly very stubborn about her loudness and she kind of got even further after I wrote her the message (she left me on read), she would still be bursting out crazy laughs after 12:30 AM.

Another roommate told me that she didn’t like me personally, which means I didn’t really do anything wrong, she just purely dislikes me, she also told the roommate that she would still be loud. I don’t mind this tbh I just want her to be more compassionate.

In the message I have written that “like me or not, respecting each other is necessary.” and yeah… according to what’s happening now, Fish is basically a jerk.

I literally just heard her saying a line “unless someone wants me to reply her…” right now as I’m writing this lol

I need advices on how to communicate with this kind of inconsiderate people. I most likely just hope she can shut up.

P.S. I still greet her when I see her in the living room and thats it.

4 comments
  1. Does no one else have a problem with her loudness? Or someone she finds less inflammatory able to approach her nicely to get her to stop? Or have they just taken her side of all this?

    You found put in an anonymous noise complaint to the building landlord or whoever, chances are she will know it’s you now but if someone professional gets involved she might take it more seriously. Even if it’s lodging a complaint through the agency/landlord/council. Ultimately your life isn’t going to be easy whilst living with her and the best advice I really have is just move out, but I know that’s not always the easiest answer.

  2. I’m sorry but make arrangements to move. Nobody needs to hear caterwauling first thing in the morning, through all their classes and then at night. Your roommate is attention-seeking and that gets old fast so the best you can do is remove yourself from it.

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