The other day I did something new sexually with my boyfriend. I told him we weren’t allowed to do PiV until I came, and I used a vibrator on myself while I was on top of him and jerked him off, all while talking to him about his sexual fantasies. Honestly the noises he was making, the way he was gripping my thighs the entire time, the faces he was making. It was insane and I’ve forgotten how much I enjoy being dominant in the bedroom. He is NEVER vocal while having sex besides heavy breathing but he was genuinly moaning in pleasure and I’ve never been more turned on.
I want to be able to do more dominant stuff in the bedroom like this, but but my boyfriend and I are pretty vanilla and we are probably going to keep it that way. Basically my question is what are some other ways to introduce some femdom-y action while keeping it moderately vanilla? We aren’t interested in BDSM or anything, so I was just wondering what other people do.
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There are subreddits for gentlefemdom and extragentlefemdom that might be a good resource for you.
Maybe make him wear a cage? Or you could edge him?
A lot of kinks can be both sensual or BDSM. But it does seem like orgasm control is theme you two already enjoy.
Facesitting. It can be done fairly gently. Or not.
“Making” him get you off with toys and vibes. You can modify this with position. Such as him on his knees while you either stand and lay off the side of the bed.
BJ with some mild anal play.
You might want to do a couple’s quiz like sexionnaire.com. It’s very comprehensive.