Me and my girlfriend are about to have sex for the first time together on Sunday and I don’t know what to do I don’t wanna embarrass myself but there is another thing I worry about I hear her talking to someone else about how a ex of hers she was dating I don’t know if I’m being to clingy but I don’t wanna take her virginity and have her regret it cause she seems like she can’t get over her ex and it hurts me but I respect her
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She shouldn’t in a relationship with you if she’s not over an ex
If you’re both virgins there’s nothing to be embarrassed about because you both know shit about sex (aside from the obvious)
As far as the ex is concerned… shes dating you not him.
How are you supposed to learn if you’re worried about the embarrassment?
I wouldn’t worry. Just have fun with it, be safe, and learn together. It’s like that with every new partner, in my experience, as you get to know each other better.
First things first, Birth Control, she should be on The Pill and you should have condoms. Make sure you know they fit you and make sure you know how to use them.
To me it sounds like you guys might want to play around with with non-PIV sex for a while, get more comfortable being naked in front of one another, explore more.
Take it slow and enjoy it. If you both are consenting then just relax and be in the moment. It’s special. Don’t overthink it… 🙂
Hey there. The first time you have sex with someone for the rest of your life might be a little bit underwhelming and awkward. Learning someone’s body takes time and you’re nervous and they’re nervous.
Here are some tips: Don’t try to do too many things the first time. Stick to a few the classic, standard positions. Missionary and Cowgirl (you on top and her on top). Most women grind when they are on top and can orgasm that way vs. just penetration. If she’s new at this also then she doesn’t know what she likes or wants, so just stick to the basics.
As far as being still attached to her ex – idk what to tell you. There is a saying “to get over someone you have to get under someone new” or something like that. IDK how true it is but sometimes a new person helps you move on from an old relationship.
The key is having sex with someone you are not embarrassed with.
If you think you can look at her in the eyes and say “Fuck, that wasn’t right, was it?” and then just laugh, then no matter what happens as long as both of you are comfortable, it isn’t gonna be a bad experience.
My first was with someone who made me feel deeply safe, it’s one of my most precious memories. I didn’t climaxed, neither did he (was nervous), but we both agree it was a great moment. He wasn’t virgin, we weren’t a coulple and never will be, nothing of that mattered at the end. I think the key fact is always feel confident and like being yourself.