Opinions on Sexually passionate / Sensual men?

Hey everyone.

**Let me preface this post and say that in no way am I trying to be disrespectful in this post. I just need some advice or helpful information in the matter. Talking and getting this out here will hopefully make me feel a bit better.**

Just posting here to get some opinions and thoughts regarding a woman’s preference of sexually ‘sensual’ men.

So long story short, I am a man who enjoys a more sensual / passionate style of sex with women. What I mean by this is that I really enjoy taking things slow and giving women pleasure by kissing on thighs, chest, arms, legs, feet etc. I really enjoy giving a woman oral pleasure and using my fingers as well as sex toys / vibrators to play and make a woman cum. I know some men do not enjoy this part a lot but for me it’s amazing.

Don’t get me wrong I also enjoy the more stereotypical acts of sex with a woman like penetrating her, receiving blowjobs etc. However to be totally truthful I might enjoy giving pleasure more than receiving pleasure.

I have been a little depressed lately because of my preference of a more passionate/sensual style of sex. From what I am hearing and seeing out there I have come to the conclusion that the majority of women enjoy a more dominant/aggressive type of man in the bedroom. A man that chokes them during sex. What some might call pussy pounding. I see a lot of women saying that they enjoy light to extreme bondage. A guy that calls them degrading names like “slut” or “whore” during sex and gets what he wants and then finishes on a woman’s face. A man that enjoys making a woman deepthroat him.

I know this is not logical but I can not seem to shake it from my mind. I slightly feel ashamed for not wanting to over power my sexual partner or not wanting to bend her over and ram my dick into her until I cum. During sex I enjoy making my partner cum. To see them shiver and make passionate noises to show me they are enjoying the pleasure I am giving them. To look into their eyes whilst she gives me oral and for me to tell her I love her. To kiss them slowly.

I am 23 and have only had 3 sexual partners. During my sexual encounters with these women I have kind of felt obligated to take a more dominant position during sex. The sex has mostly consisted of me getting blowjobs and me fucking the girl in doggy position and then cumming. That’s it.

I have never actually given a girl oral, I avoid passionate style kissing. I have not rubbed or kissed a woman’s thighs, chest and other parts which I mentioned earlier. Mostly because I don’t want the girl to think lesser of me. I have just stuck to getting head and fucking and that’s it. But I want so much more.

Why do I think like this? Why am I so scared of being passionate in the bedroom. Somewhere along the line I have been programmed to feel like a man showing emotions both in day to day life and sexually is unacceptable.

Maybe porn has some part to play in it? I know a lot of Porn emphasizes on men dominating women. Maybe that’s what has given me these conceptions.

I probably need some therapy or something to get over this and to actually enjoy my sex life.

For now though I have been avoiding relationships and sex for the most part because I cant get over this. I genuinely feel like women and my male peers will think less of me if I were to implement my sexual desires. I kind of feel less than because of it.

I just feel like men that chat up women with slick chat up lines and then fuck and delete are more respected in some weird way. Like I know this isn’t reality, but like it sure does seem like it.

I know a lot of women will say they like a guy that performs foreplay and makes them cum but honestly I cant get over my mental barrier.

So here I am, asking for everyone’s opinion on the matter. What do you think I should do to get over this? Am I being overdramatic? I feel like crap.

Thanks everyone 🙂