I (23F) am autistic, and really bad with social situations. A friend, Emma invited me to her house on Wednesday night to stop by and see a puppy she’s watching.
I asked if my other friend Charlotte (27F) (who Emma has never met before), could come too. Emma said “okay!”
Was it rude of me to even ask this? I have heard multiple times that “okay” is not a yes.
But I didn’t stop there. I told Charlotte there will be a girls night at my friend’s house, because I thought it would sound less awkward than “hey wanna come see a dog?”. As far as I know, it will just be me, Emma, and her two female roommates, so it is in fact a girls’ night.
I should also add that I am ace but biromantic, and I am in love with Charlotte. Neither Charlotte nor I are good social event planners, so I thought this was the one good opportunity I had. Was I in the wrong?
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You didn’t invite her though, you asked if she could come. If you would have invited her it would have been like calling or texting her and saying hey, why don’t you come over here. Your friend didn’t know and now this person she doesn’t know shows up. That would be inappropriate, but just asking if your firend could come, nah that’s fine.