I (23M) took the time to work on myself after having spent half of high school and college in long term relationships. I have one more semester of school left, and I live with my parents at the moment. I plan on moving out after I’ve finished school, secured a job, and saved enough to not be living paycheck to paycheck. I’ve had some mental health challenges that I’ve pretty much worked through with the help of therapy, and I finally have a good relationship with myself after the past few years of solitude.

I know that if I really want to meet people and get out there I actually have to do the legwork and get the dating apps and go be social and all that, but it has been so long since I have even considered doing anything like that I’m kind of out of practice. I am a personal trainer and have been training people so I can converse with people, but I haven’t had conversations with people with romantic intentions in a while.

I am also hung up on the fact that I’m still living with my parents. I’m starting to get the urge to go meet people but am worried about hanging out at home. It was fine when I was in high school obviously, and in college I always had my own place, but now I live with the parents. I almost want to wait until I have my own place, but I can tell I’m starting to get the urge to meet people now.

Do I try to navigate being at home and not being fully on my own for the moment and trying to get back out there after a few years of working on myself, or do I grind for another year or two and wait until I’m self sufficient?

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  1. You aren’t ready until you have a montage ending with an out of shape, but not out of the game, trainer stare at you and tell you ‘you’re ready’.

    But seriously, you have a goal, you’re getting there successfully. You aren’t struggling, financially or mentally (enough to be a burden on the other person.) The house thing isn’t as big of a deal as you might think. From what I hear the bubble will burst like an inflatable pool with a knife in it. So it’s best to wait (unless Uncle Sam gets his dirty government regulating fingers in the mix and cock it up.)
    You’re Ready -_-

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