I absolutely love my bf, I get off multiple times when we are intimate, but he has so much trouble getting off. I can FEEL I’m too loose for him and keggle while he’s inside of me which he likes but I can only hold it for so long. I’ve always been told I’m so tight and for my other partners with bigger penises this is true.. but not for him and it is effecting me mentally to where I can’t get wet sometimes bc I know he is going to have trouble getting off. I recently posted about that but this is my new conclusion ~ I reached this conclusion bc the last 3x we’ve had sex he’s finished in my ass. Which is tighter then my vag.. what can be done? Anything?
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How about one of those penis sleeve things?
how small is he?
smaller penis… very easy to suck him off. you can take the whole thing in your mouth, and maybe even the balls too. your jaw won’t get sore or tired. he’d probably prefer finishing in your mouth anyways. good for anal too. i can almost guarantee he’s cool with either of those. as long as you feel satisfied and you get yours too, i think he’s gonna be happy regardless of how he finishes. for the mental/dry aspect. use some good lube AND talk to him about it. when he reassures you that he loves finishing ANYWHERE, i think you’ll be more comfortable.
You’ll be using the pooter more tbh.
Considering using a toy he can use? If he wants that, of course.
My husband and I use a cock sleeve for that. LoveHoney has a great one that makes him 8″×6.5″. It’s great for giving me the full feeling and he still cums every time we use it.
What’s his length and girth?
Hold up a second. Please. This thread is … ok … hear me out. You are falling into the trap of a lazy double standard and, as a man, I just wish that trap would go away. People are here throwing advice to you about how to deal with his small penis and whatnot and that is great. Really. But if a man had posted something like this the response would be, as it should be here… “Talk to her”. So that is the advice. Talk to him. Seriously.
He has a small peen. I would imagine that is not great for him. However, this may or may not be at all relevant and it is weird to assume that this is why he is not having orgasms. You get off with him. So it is big enough. Awesome. And you say that you are “tight”. Cool. Was he able to get off with other women prior to you? Does that that mean that they were “tighter” and you are “loose” by comparison? See how quickly these assumptions can become offensive? In this case you assume that because he is small that must be why he is not getting off. That is an awful assumption to make.
As a man, I find it far more likely that he is not finishing because he is trying to please you. I’ve been exactly there. I have been in relationships where I came maybe 1 in 15 times we had sex. It did not really matter to me. I was just enjoying the experience and would sort of pass the orgasm exit ramp. Once that happens you keep going but it is tough to get back to that point again. Likewise I have had a partner tell me that they really need me to finish as well so that they feel good about the experience. Cool. With that partner I would take the exit ramp. In none of those instances was the size of my penis or their respective vaginas in any way relevant.
All I am saying here is that every man thinks his penis is either too big or too small. This dude is legit small and is still throwing it around like a beast. For the love of god do not approach this with him from the standpoint of “I am afraid you are too small to get off with me so let’s get you this thing to make you bigger”. I have to imagine that would be kind of soul crushing. I mean, if the issue is something else entirely and now you have thrown it out there that you think he is small, well, congratulations. Now you have two problems rather than just one.
Ok, so you’ve decided based on past posts that you’re loose for him. Please be aware that unless he’s said it, this is still a hypothesis.
For one don’t hold the kegel. Squeeze sometimes, and relax sometimes. Or flex a bunch of times in a row, see if he feels all that.
And also oral. To me every good relationship should have plenty of time for one person intently going down on the other, so that each partner can get off when they’re ready instead of a woman trying to hurry before it’s over and a man trying his damnedest not to.
Are you sure he just doesn’t like your ass? Or the headspace of being in it?
Edit after reading your other responses:
So what happens when you’ve gotten off and are ready for it to be over and you start telling him you love how he feels and want his seed?
I think you dont undestand his body. Try teasing him, a bit handjob. I always finish faster when she plays with my dick.
> what can be done? Anything?
stop making assumptions. if you don’t want to keep doing anal because *you want more* vaginal, then tell him that. don’t play games because you can’t read your partners mind.
Get on top. Have him penetrate fully from the bottom, and then start grinding. Don’t go up and down. Keep him fully penetrated and grind on his body. Let him swim in your juices and don’t worry about being “tight” for him. Keep a slow rhythm and let him concentrate on getting off.
This should be your “finisher” after you have finished having all your orgasms from him being on top with the perfect length hitting your g-spot over and over.
Get on top and just be a human “dick sleeve”.
You’re welcome.
Put a finger in his bum, he will cum
Have you told him directly: “hey, I am starting to feel a bit insecure you are not coming so often from PIV?” Give him a prompt to share his side of why he prefers to finish more during anal.
I mean, does he really need to get off in your vag? If he can get off in other ways with you then I don’t really see a problem. Just because he can’t get off that way doesn’t mean it doesn’t feel good. Lots of woman can’t cum from PIV intercourse, but for the majority of them it still feels good…
If you let him finish in your ass everytime than he is living the dream, no worries
keggle 😌
Tried letting him in the back door?
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Try anal?
I mean i hear what you are saying… there are positions that can help – like wrapping your legs around him in missionary… more foreplay… more blowjobs… more teasing on both sides
Thank you all for the advice, to clarify once again his size isn’t the issue, he feels absolutely amazing!!! I thought I was the issue and my size was, but I believe I’m overthinking and I will hold off on bringing it up further and trust that he will tell me if I need to do something with myself. I’ll definitely continue to do the things he likes and try new things consensually with him,of course! I appreciate everyone’s time and thoughts on the matter!
Some women get really wet though, if he’s good making you cum, there might be too much cum, I’ve had that before, which all it does is make me feel good and eventually I will get there, makes for an amazing orgasm once it does happen, we cum once most of the time and it’s over.
Sex will only be fulfilling and easy when both of you come out of your own heads.
I don’t understand what the problem is. Is the problem that his penis is too small and can’t safisfy you ? Or is the problem that he lasts too long and you take it personally as if there’s something wrong with you since he takes so long? Either way you need to talk to him , not us.
Fuck another one of these. My who haw doesn’t fit his peen posts.
I didn’t always cum either until I met the woman I’ve been with for the past two years. To be fair I’ve never really been in love before either and I’m 44. So sex has a completely different feeling now.
Your vagina isn’t the issue. I’m 7.5 inches long and 6.5 inches in girth and it didn’t matter if I was with a young girl in her early 20’s or a woman in her late 40’s, sometimes it just doesn’t happen. But as soon as I found someone I truly loved, it wasn’t a problem.
All this advice you’ve been giving is some bullshit lol. IS HE MENTALLY STIMULATED? Has the scene been set? Has he been prepped to be so horny he’s leaking pre cum? How do you focus on his pleasure? HE ORGASMS DURING ANAL. Why is that? You assume it could be a physical aspect, but I am so, so doubtful.
ITS NOT DEATHGRIP IF HE ORGASMS DURING ANAL. Or blowjobs for that matter. Which is the first to go, in that rare, extremely rare case. Has he opened up to you about his fantasies?
The only thing I know is that “fine perfumes are in small bottles”.
Yeah I’m gonna be honest here this sounds the issue has nothing to do with how ‘tight’ or ‘small’ he is and everything to do with lack of communication from both parties.