I’ve seen a lot of posts asking what NOT to do when trying to court someone, but what are some things you SHOULD do?

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1. People don’t like giving positive examples to men, they are too afraid of the negative behaviors

2. Look for people who share your values and are looking for the same kind or relationship you want.

   Choice is a huge factor in success or failure.

   People launch into shit with anyone who shows any interest with them and wonder why they get a shitstorm.

   Know who you are. Know who you are looking for and what you want with them.

3. Here’s what you should do:

   Pick an activity that you two can engage each other. It shouldn’t be a place that’s too loud, and don’t pick a movie or tv show. You cant talk to each other.

   Listen to the other person, talk to them, understand why they see the world the way they do.

   Dress nicely, shower before you go, get a haircut, shave, take some effort to try to look good.

   After that, it’s all you. Be polite, listen, and see what happens.

4. What men should be doing more often, is look for a date how they view others.

   A date doesn’t have to have the best positive self image, that can be worked on. But you can tell what the person’s true motivation is how they treat others and what they say behind closed doors.

   If they talk about positivity about their friends and coworkers and family even if they have flaws, that a green flag.

   If they don’t get jealous about people’s success but what to help them out to achieve their goal, that’s a keeper.

5. I say be a more refined version of yourself.

   By this, i mean if you’re a naturally funny person, be funny. If you’re not, don’t force yourself to be funny because you think your date would like. I know alot of people who don’t really joke around, but are still people that are fun to be around.

   Now the refine part comes in. Let’s say you usually forget to brush your teeth or don’t feel like trimming your beard. Brush your teeth before your date and find time to trim your beard. Don’t go into a date thinking “I’m just giving her a preview of what’s she’s in for.”

6. * Wear clean clothes
   * Shower beforehand and wear perfume
   * Do something with your hair like putting in wax
   * Go in with the intention of having a pleasant time. Even if the date went nowhere, you still had fun
   * Be on time, but be easygoing on the other

7. For a first date, pick something that doesn’t require too much time commitment. If things aren’t going well, at least you’re done and out in an hour or two. If things do go well, either you can move on to somewhere/something else or you leave with a really solid basis for a second date.

8. Be interested in her as a person, this gives you questions to ask and get to know her (assuming, of course, that you are interested, for real, in her. Then you’re already halfway there). Then, pay attention to whether she is interested in you to the same extent. If she is showing less interest in getting to know you than you are in getting to know her, you’re undervaluing yourself. Unless, of course, you’re both just out for a hookup. I was thinking more long-term. I’m ranting now, aren’t I? I’ll see myself out.