Just alot of things.

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1. You are probably not doing anything wrong and neither is he. You might just be sexually incompatible.

   >We talked about it but he says “I won’t like it” but he’s never done that.

   People don’t have to try things to know that they wont like them. Boundaries should be respected.

   >I just don’t know how to make him try new things

   Again, you don’t *make* people try things. Boundaries are valid.

2. You’re not doing anything wrong. Some people have a high libido and some have a low. Doesn’t necessarily depend on the age.

   You could do sth like mojoupgrade to check what you’re both into.
   Communication is key I guess. It’s okay that he has a lower libido, but not even willing to try out things is a bummer. I’d try to make it clear to him that you want him at least to try things. And foreplay is an essential imo.

3. > he says “I won’t like it” but he’s never done that.

   Trust me you will like it but most of all take action. [More foreplay](https://tichazblo.wordpress.com/2022/01/10/foreplay-done-right/), vibrator etc you already know what you want and that is a good start. Below I will give more ideas but about his low libido sometimes the solution is just to have sex with your partner. I know, when you’re not feeling it, the last thing you want to do is have sex. But here’s the thing: [Sex begets sex](https://tichazblo.wordpress.com/2022/01/14/affectionate/). The more you have, the more you want. Both men and women have testosterone in their bodies, and when you don’t have sex for a while, your testosterone levels drop. Since testosterone is a big contributor to sex drive, that means your libido drops too. Set a sex goal with your partner. Try making a commitment to have sex twice a week for a month and see how you feel. And no, he doesn’t have to have an erection always, certain days [let him go down on you](https://tichazblo.wordpress.com/2022/01/10/savage/), on other days [let him give you a relaxing vagina massage](https://tichazblo.wordpress.com/2022/01/10/vagina-massage/)….if anything there is [quite a lot he could do with his hands mouth and body](https://tichazblo.wordpress.com/2022/01/12/female-pleasure/) which does not involve an erection or a penis for that matter but will surely leave you feeling like a sexual Goddess.

   Before you say it – I know, I know. I felt a cringe myself when I first heard this suggestion. I thought to myself “You can’t schedule something so delicate as sex! What if I’m not in the mood? That’s for sure going to take all the passion out of it!” But it didn’t!

   And here is why:

   Imagine for a second you run into a good of friend of yours. You have a lovely chat over coffee and decided that you should meet again soon. But instead of scheduling your next meet up you decided to play it by ear leaving your next meeting to chance. Thankfully, you run into each other again in a few weeks, but this time you choose not to rely on luck and schedule your next coffee for next week. Both of you make a decision on a spot to make it a priority to see each other next Wednesday. Now ask yourself, is your next coffee date going to be any less exciting because it’s scheduled? Chances are you answered ‘No.’ That’s right. A planned activity is no less exciting than a non-scheduled one if you enjoy spending time with the person.

   Think back to the time when you and your partner were starting to date. Didn’t you schedule your dates? Didn’t you anticipate to end up having sex on those dates? You did, didn’t you. By scheduling sex in our busy lives, we make sure we make it a priority, just like we prioritize a birthday party. Our sex lives deserve the same recognition and respect.

   The recipe for regular adventurous sex is simple: get together with you partner, decide on how many times a week and what days of the week you want to prioritize your sex for, schedule it and stick with it, no ifs and buts.