What is the single most useful book you’ve ever read for your own *self* understanding?

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1. *Come As You Are* by Emily Nagoski taught me so much about how desire functions, and how my specific type of desire functions.

2. Mine was Michael Bader’s [*Arousal*](https://www.amazon.com/Arousal-Secret-Logic-Sexual-Fantasies/dp/0312302428), for what it’s worth! It really helped me to understand the psychological function that seemingly bizarre sexual thoughts can have.

3. Animal Farm by George Orwell. It is not about sex. It is about society and power and corruption. It is particularly relevant these days. A relatively short story that I have remembered for many decades. If you like this, try 1984 by same author.

4. The Joy of Sex by Dr. Alex Comfort. I read the book specifically for a better understanding of sex.

   Princess Daisy by Judith Krantz. I read this for fun, however I learned something about make confidence and sexuality that is seldom discussed as clearly as in the book.

5. If you give a mouse a cookie.

6. The Hite Report.

7. Tell me what you want by Justin Lehmiller.

8. https://www.thriftbooks.com/w/boundaries_henry-cloud_john-townsend/14102080/item/3646352/?gclid=Cj0KCQjwidSWBhDdARIsAIoTVb0OZ8Yy9JcUl-PWrHUyWkk0sh3SE2-dT64YbmM23-aIXLt8A3ZRt88aAtLCEALw_wcB#isbn=0310585902&idiq=3646352

9. Thinking Fast and Slow, Daniel Kahneman