It all started when my sisters bf texted me. My sister and her bf just broke up so he’s texting me trying to get back with her. tldr: he doesn’t see he has control issues still blames my sister for why he gets upset. Being a person caught in the middle, I send my sister the text msgs he’s been writing.
My sister tells me to come over to her house so we can talk. I go over and my other sister is there too. We start drinking outside.
I’ve always had a deep DEEP hate for my sister after she treated our family like crap, left, and came back because she got pregnant. It feels like my parents accepted her with open arms. Feels like she didn’t have to apologize or anything. This is just how I feel. It’s an assumption.
I understand that assumptions should never be believed. When she left at the age of 12 I was okay with that. It was when she came back after 18 that made me upset. At 18 she was pregnant. She gave birth and I became the primary caretaker. Day in and day out I had to help my sister. I was 12 btw. 2 years later she was pregnant again. Then my other brother had children, and then my other brother had children. Now there are 11 children that I have raised.
As we were drinking, one thing led to another and I got really angry. I was upset that I had to give up all of my time so she can be happy. I felt like a slave.
We argued for probably an hour. The sun set and it became dark. I started breathing really hard and got up to go for a walk. She yelled at me for leaAnita. I walked around the block trying to cool off. I got lost and my other sister picked me up. She took me home. I told her I want to go back and finish. She said no, finish when you are sober. She took me home.
I’m sry if this post is a bit rambling. I just woke up after drinking so I’m not all here.
Aita, for getting mad?
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I don’t know, I have a different question though. What was your intent in bringing up how you felt like a slave and all you had to give up in that drunken conversation? What did you want out of that interaction?
Yes.
You barely mention your parents, but they’re the ones actually responsible for whatever you were made to do when you were 12, not your sister.
You had your youth robbed from you by a selfish older sister who didnt want to raise her children. Not your fault. YNTA. I WOULD BE PISSED TOO. And shame on your family for shiving that responsibility on you. Just because youre an option doesnt mean its ok to constantly use you.