So i (21M) was interested in a coworker (21F) last year. It didn’t go anywhere i let her know my feelings about he and she said how she felt (doesn’t want a relationship. Wants to focus on college) and we left it at that. Still remained friends etc.
Fast forward basically a year now and i tell some of my close work friends that im now dating someone. All goes well till today when one of the guys who i told that info to brings it up while standing with coworker i was interested in and a few others.
We joked about it and i brush it off as just some friendly banter while its a slow workday. Well after that little group conversation the coworker i was interested in for the rest of the day basically acted as if i don’t exist. Our workplace is very reliant on communication between everyone so its very odd for someone to just completely ignore you for the whole day and basically act as if you don’t exist.
Im very confused and no idea how to handle this. Its just so out of left field that I’ve no idea how to even approach this. Any help/take on this would be great.
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She probably developed feelings for you and had her heart broken a little. Nothing you can really do but just try and act normally and do your work
But it’s impossible for us to know for sure
She probably thought she would end up with you, but on her terms. The thing about that is that you miss out if you wait for everything to be perfect. That’s my take.
She could have been interested initially but wanted you to work harder for it (some people are like that).
If I’m on the right track, I suspect she’s upset about that fact that you’ve now moved on and she lost her chance.
She really is into you, and unreasonably expected you to just wait?
She’s probably just hurt and processing it. Give her some time. Even though she said no, there may be some residual feelings now that she knows that door is closed.
she’s being manipulative. ignore her back.
Your interest in her gave her an ego boost.
That’s is now gone, and she’s seething.
She feels like she lost her trump card with you. You took her power away. That is all. Let her be butt hurt. She will get over it (or try to get something else over you).