I have this in-ate fear of people not coming closer to me cause they find me boring. I am sure you all have that friend in your friend group who is super engaging and knows how to do stuffs and have fun. I want to be like that, I want people to like hanging out with me.
I have interests as in I like reading and getting nerdy, I also like physical activities like sports and I could talk about them to make me interesting but I can’t do it everytime. The way I show myself in this world seems superficial just because I am scared of people leaving me if I am not entertaining enough:(
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recommended reading: “how to win friends and influence people” by dale carnegie.
from my understanding,the two ways to become interesting are rather counter-intuitive
1. be enthusiastic about what you do, and let that show when you talk about them. it’s weird but generally, even someone is talking about something we know nothing about or care nothing about, if they’re showing they’re passionate about it, it becomes more interesting
2. talk about _their_ interests, not yours. people who talk about themselves only: boring. people who talk about the interests of others: interesting. ask people about the things they’re into or passionate about. it actually makes you seem more interesting as a person