Reflecting on my last several partners, I do not ask for pleasure. I receive it moderately, almost never enough to orgasm.
When I masturbate, I orgasm, so this isn’t an impossible task, but it seems insurmountable with a partner, especially since I don’t insist.
In most relationships this leads to me feeling like my partner doesn’t care about my pleasure, which brews resentment.
Does anyone else experience this? How have you overcome this?
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How do you overcome it ? Communicate to your partner what you want. If you’re getting resentful because you aren’t saying what you want, that’s your fault. Your partner can’t read your mind.
You overcome it by asking for what you want and need. Period. There is not magic answer or solution – you need to stand up for yourself and not settle. Explain your expectations and if it isn’t working, move on.
Instead of a vibe, try the Womanizer that works with gentle air pressure. Works well from our experience. And bring that toy to bed with you….have him inside you while you use it. Total turn on for me to have her cum like that. She gets hers first, then I get mine, but most times we cum together (her second O).
And don’t give up on vibes. From things I have read, you can tease yourself with it before going full on. Start with a quilt or blanket and just use it on your public mons, and slowly work it over to your clit. Give your body time to get aroused.
Otherwise, (again, from what I have read since I don’t own one), your clit can be too sensitive or downright hurt right out of the gate, before the blood flow has engorged the area.
My wife has never been unsatisfied for what she tells me. But I always ask after I’m finished if she is finished or not sometimes she does ask for alittle more..very rare! But i’ll play with her or eat her out. Communication is key too q relationship and good sex! Talk to them about it if you are not satisfied nothing wrong with it!