Hi, thank you for reading my post.
I have an online friend whom I am really good friends with, or at least used to be. A few months ago we would talk almost every day, and it would always be them starting the conversation. I was fine with that because I don’t know how to start conversations with people.
But then they started to start conversations less and less and now we don’t talk much, I haven’t talked to them in a few weeks. I feel that this is my fault for not starting enough conversations. I feel uncomfortable doing so, especially now. There’s the “haven’t talked for a while” awkwardness I need to break and I’m starting to question whether they still like talking to me, or me at all; why would I waste someone’s time by talking to them if they don’t like talking to me?
I’ve tried to think about that recently and it seems kind of not true because when we were talking all the time they seemed to like talking to me and even like me as a person. Even with that I still can’t shake that feeling.
I want to talk to them about this but I don’t want to send a big long paragraph to them.
I want to start making our friendship nearly as good as it was before, but I don’t know how. I really don’t want to lose them over this because I don’t really have any friends with as good of a relationship as them.
How should I go about starting to talk to them ‘normally’ again?
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You’re thinking too hard. You wanna talk, so talk. Throughout all your conversations there has to be something you can bring up. Do they have some hobby you can check in on? Or a simple “hey it’s been a minute, how are things?” honestly doesn’t hurt.
You have to think about it from their perspective also. If they always initiated, they might wonder why you never reciprocate by initiating yourself. Some people are fine initiating all the time. Others are more conscious about the relationship and can doubt the friendship if it seems like a one way street.