We’ve been dating for 6 months and i have not orgasmed by him once. I’m his first so he’s new to this. He’s tried to finger me and eat me out but he always does it for 30 seconds and says he wants sex. I always hint to him by saying I’m horny or “oh i might just go home and finish myself off”. I don’t know if he’s scared to keep trying but i’ve told him before it takes me longer to cum. I need advice on how to approach him about this.
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Stop hinting. Tell him you can’t be bothered having sex if he’s the only one who gets to cum. Ask him how much he’d enjoy sex if he never got to cum and only you did.
It sounds like you’ve communicated your needs and he’s too absorbed in his own desire/arousal to want to listen to you. I’d be hesitant to stay in a relationship like this tbh.
Tell him that both of y’all should be satisfied when y’all have sex and that you aren’t finishing. If he doesn’t agree, tell him he can’t fuck you if you he doesn’t make you cum firstt from oral. If he needs help, he can suck on your clit while using a dildo on you too. Or if you have a clit stim, he can use that on your clit and finger you at the same time. There are so many ways to make a girl cum and toys are teammates, not competitors. Sounds like you’re not finishing from his dick (most women can’t from PIV alone) so he’s gotta make it happen before he fucks you.
Edit: If he doesn’t come around, leave him. Otherwise he’ll never satisfy you and if y’all break up for another reason, he’s more likely to do the same thing. As a man, it pisses me off so much when other men are so damn selfish. Women aren’t put on this earth to be fucked by us. You deserve someone better if he doesn’t come around OP.
Always tell him to eat you out til you cum first before he gets to have his chance. If not then its time for both of you to start dating someone else
He’s not even trying, so why stay with him?
You should have that conversation outside of a sexual context, not during. Tell him how you feel, that it is important to you and you want to feel cared for. If that doesn’t work then you might need to reconsider staying with him