We’re both in our mid-20s and I’ve been talking to this girl for 2-3wks now. We’ve been texting a lot and have met up a couple of times (she’s a bit religious so taking it slow with moving towards having sex, I don’t mind it). Everything seems to be going well except for the fact that she never initiates a texting conversation or a hangout, I’m always the one initiating something. If I stop texting for a couple days, I won’t hear anything from her. If I start texting again, then she goes back to normal
Is this a sign she’s not interested or just shy/bad at texting? Should I ask her directly if she’s interested or not?
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One thing I read elsewhere on Reddit has stuck with me. It was the ‘rule’ that if the other person is interested you will know it. If you ‘are confused’ nine out of ten times they are not interested.
In your case, you are ‘confused’. I would STOP initiating conversations. If she never initiates a conversation you’ll have your answer. It means she is not as invested as you are. If you constantly bombard her with your attention you will destroy your chances. Back off now. It seems she is not interested. Being bad at texting is such a BS excuse. Meanwhile, focus on other things and possibly other girls. Realise you can have more options than her.
Ask her directly.
It can be as simple as, “Is there something going on with us?”
Make it clear you like her.