I’m starting to think she doesn’t care what I want when it comes to sex. Honestly I’m not gonna go out and look for it I want it from her and it’s just so disappointing that I can’t get it. Our relationship is not bad at all I work she’s a SAHM I have always tried to help her the most I can once I get home with anything and I always do our laundry and I put our son to sleep. We can have a lot of sex but it always has to be me who starts it because if I don’t she starts telling me how I don’t want to have sex with her. She won’t even wear a thong i would go crazy if she did she just lays in bed shows me her ass and there she thinks that’s all it takes? Recently she’s been letting me go down on her since it’s something I really enjoy. Oh and I give her a massage before she goes to sleep almost every day :/ I love her I just think Our sex can do much better(she always orgasms). I know I will get some hate in the comments but whatever and yes I’ve tried talking to her but nothing.
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Same here
I’ll suggest you read Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski and see if you can gain some insight that will help you have more productive conversations with her.
It’s also available on audio book & most libraries have it for free
Maybe she wants to feel more aggressive manly fucking energy from you. Have you talked to her about it. (I say this seriously).
why are there soooo many fake troll posts on this subreddit? “sex not important to her anymore” and “We can have a lot of sex but it always has to be me who starts it because if I don’t she starts telling me how I don’t want to have sex with her.” in the same damn paragraph.
I would say the first step is talking to her about it tell her what exactly it is she is doing and how to affect you and maybe you try to change things up you take the first step and guide her things like bringing in toys and buying her thongs.
My point is she might just be bored of you and not excited.
Have you tried communicating with her?
Have you checked in with hour she is in general, sex aside?
Honestly, I think you’re better off not worrying about this, my man. I know it would be nice to have her initiate. But if you’re having regular sex that means she wants it. A lot of women (and some men) don’t get sexually excited until they are physically aroused. So you have to be the one. And it sounds like you have an active sex life and give her pleasure, so that’s awesome!
Married 26yrs
She never really had a good sex drive
I flirt a lot with other females and I’m always looking for action . Honestly!!!!! Im not even attracted to her anymore she is a great wife love her sooo much butvyears of being told no all the time . Kinda brainwashed me into referring sex with her as mental block. She knows she fucked up but what ever I’m not gonna make someone do something that they are really into. So I’m always on the prowl . So ladies. !!!!! Don’t cock block your husbands because After a while they loose all interest in you and step out on ya