My boyfriend and I have a pretty good sex life but it’s not perfect, there’s always been two things: he rushes through foreplay, just wants to put it in and he’s super quiet.
These things were annoying, but I figured since overall I was enjoying myself, not to sweat over it.
We’d been playing with the idea of a threesome for a while, and we finally felt courageous and wild enough to do it. He’s bi, I’m straight, so we went with another guy as the guest.
My boyfriend actually took his time during foreplay on our guest. He licked and played with his nipples, gave him hickeys, played with his balls and groped him all over. It was super hot, but like, with me he wants to put his dick in right away.
And then penetration, unexpectedly, my boyfriend was the bottom. He was actually making noise, full on moaning. Again, super hot, but he’s silent with me.
I’ve tried to explain it as he wanted more foreplay and was moaning simply because he was the bottom, but my brain just wants to go straight to he’s gay or otherwise not into me. Any thoughts or advice?
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Well how long since he’d been with a guy? If it’s has been a rare occurrence he’s probably going to enjoy it and act out even more given that he’s otherwise in a straight relationship with you. You also wouldn’t be the first person to be a somewhat shocked at how your partner behaved different when another person was added to the bedroom. I recall someone in the swingers sub saying a MMF threesome they had ruined her relationship because he otherwise dominant husband became a total submissive bottom when given the chance and she couldn’t get over the about face in his behaviour and demeanour.
It the very least it’s worth talking over with him what happened and how you’d like him to engage in more foreplay and make more noise in the bedroom with you.
couples can take eachother for granted, this is concerning given that you started 3somes. Time for a serious talk
Being a bottom its kind of more intense. I don’t know if you have done anal but if you have you know it’s very different.
As for doing things. Tell him that it was hot and that you want to have the same kind of attention when you 2 are having fun. See what he says.
Straight male here, so idk how much help I can give about a bi male.
Has he had sex with other males before? If so a lot or very little? If this is his first time having sex with another guy then I kinda understand him being extra with the moaning and stuff.
There’s a possibly he’s more into guys than girls. I can’t like but while reading the post I had the thought “he might be more gay leaning than bi”
This is totally normal. The sensation is wildly different than penetration. You do anal? If so, you know. If you haven’t already get a strap on and go to town. It certainly shouldn’t mean he is not into you. It’s like he had chocolate cake, which he occasionally likes (not all the time, after having a lot of cherry pie. I would role play a lot with this scenario when it’s just you two. But on the flip side you should have a convo with him to let him know how you’re feeling so he can reassure you or discuss how he felt so you both are on the same page. I’m really into bi guys and personally find a bottom super super hottttt. I recognize it’s an entirely different experience than penetration. Also if you didn’t do this already having him fuck you while he is being fucked will send him over the moon and for you should hopefully help you feel more a part of the action.
There is alot of good advice floating in your comments already but here goes.
Personally it sounds like he was very excited about the situation. And maybe having you extra turned up as well since it was all so hot to you, made it more intense for him. As a bi curious guy (only ever kissed a man but didnt hate it) i can say the times i have had women do things to me anally i tend to moan more than when they are playing with my penis as it is a more intense pleasure/orgasm than no anal stimulation. For sure open the conversation about him turning you on with those actions. And it being something you want/need. If you have been together a long time things can become routine, so things outside the routine tend to have that effect hope this helps good luck.
Try doing other things with him. Maybe give pegging a try and see if you can cause the same reaction.
Sounds like he’s more into men than women tbh especially if he’s a bottom.