So I’ve been texting with this girl who seems very nice from all the interactions I’ve had with her, but when we text it just ends up with me saying “wyd”/“how are you” and her saying “not much just chilling”/“I’m good”
So our conversations never get too far
I feel like I have a lot of interesting things to talk about but I have trouble getting a conversation going so I can bring them up. What can I do?
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Ask her more questions (and follow-up questions), and show her that you are interested in her and her life. It’s tough giving more exact advice without knowing your age or any of your interests, but generally show her that you are interested in her for being her.
Maybe bring up a hobby, and ask if she ever has done said hobby, and then either ask her what her experience was, or what other hobbies she’s had (like sports or instruments, or something).
If you want a conversation, it would be better to do it in person or over a call. Texting is really just meant for short exchanges, and it’s cumbersome to have meaningful conversation. Also, you miss 80% of the fun of talking to the person if you don’t get to hear their personality.
you could just focus more on in person conversations, because they tend to be easier and more natural at least for me. Also, things like sarcasm and other social tools are harder to use over text. Or you could at least talk to her in person more until you learn stuff about her like what interests and hobbies she has and then you can build those into texts. For example, if she plays a sport like soccer, you can ask her when she has games, and then after her game ask her how it went and just start up a casual convo