So if I match with a girl on a dating app or meet her in person and ask on a date, I really just want to use texting to have quick small talk and plan a date.
I hold the frame that I’m a busy guy with shit going on and if we meet on a Tuesday, text on Wednesday and plan a date on Saturday, I will not text them until Friday when I’ll give them a call to make sure we’re still good for the next day. If the date was further out, I will also not text them until then
Obviously if they texted me, I’d reply, but other than that I wait until the day before the date planned.
My issue is 4 different girls I met from dating apps agreed to go on a date with me last month and all of them just ghosted me…
So idk wtf gives. They clearly were interested in me enough to give me their number and agree to a date, but then just ghost without any inclination.
Is this just typical dating app stupid girl bullshit or is the lack of texting between to blame?
I’ll note the reason I do this is because 1. I see text conversation mostly as a waste of time, phone calls and in person are far superior 2. I do want to hold the frame that my time is valuable and I’m a busy guy and 3. A dating coach I hired told me this is how to handle things.
Any thoughts / input?
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I’ll say with my GF I didn’t text her in-between dates at first which led her to believed I lost interest. I was just trying not to come off as clingy, I think nowadays girls need the attention for the validation that you are actually interested. So in my experience atleast they value it.