It has always been a fantasy of mine to finger a guy and my current bf was so cool and open about it when I brought it up to him.
At first I was so scare/shy to even mention something like that to him because I feel like it’s something that is not talk about a lot or some people might still see it as taboo. Throughout our relationship he has always gave me the confident of me telling him everything without been judged or feel weird. That is when I opened up to him about my fantasy, at first he thought I was kidding but quickly realize I was serious. He told me other girls have asked before but he never let them touch him there. So that same day we got on it. At first he was nervous and jumpy but then I started to suck his dick and fingering at the same time. I got sooo turned on I didn’t wanted to stop. I have never in my life felt so wet without penetration like that before. After we finished I asked him if he like it and he said he didn’t like it nor dislike it but if I enjoyed I can keep doing it. Is this a normal feeling since it was his first time? I want him to like it and enjoy it as much as I do.
I would definitely appreciate any kind of tips to make him feel more comfortable and to spicy things up in bed.
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Hi there! As a woman, I honestly couldn’t give you tips, but there’s absolutely no shame in having sexual fantasies even if it’s uncommon. Personally, I like it rough and I like BDSM and my boyfriend never did it before he met me! I know it’s a cheesy tip, but communication is key. Ask him often if he likes it, in case he changes his mind or if he was shy to tell you the truth at first, but honestly GIRL HAVE YOUR FUN, IT SEEMS LIKE IT WAS A GOOD TIME FOR YOU ;))
I think it really is personal preference as to him liking it, but the prostate is a powerful sexual organ. Learning how to work it can lead to some intense pleasure. If pegging or prostate massagers are on table, I would suggest working into it. Watching those prostate orgasms is a sight to see!
He isn’t sure he liked it?? Wow. It’s absolutely my favorite thing ever. (m) He may still be a little timid about letting himself enjoy it. Not that it has to be for everyone..
Tips? Well, I can only speak for myself… but there are two different moves you can go with here. There’s the in/out motion, and the “come hither” motion against the prostate. For me, the prostate is where it’s at. I can only describe it as a euphoric sensation. I’m not such a fan of the in/out.
Not surprised to hear you get off on it as well. My wife really enjoys herself on the rare occasions we partake.
As a man who has had this done it can definitely be very satisfying. I was with a woman who made me feel very comfortable about it. I didn’t think I’d be into it, but I was, and she loved it too.
That said the first time or two was slightly awkward for me. You have to learn how to relax as a man the same way a woman does. She started this journey by eating my ass and worked up to it. The ass licking really got me motivated to try more. So maybe that’s something to consider? If you’re both into it that is. I think she kind of liked the sense of control, and having me vulnerable. Is that what you enjoy about the process?
Either way, if he was fine with it once and is willing for it to continue he’s probably curious and enjoyed the experience, or at least sees what it could be.
Sounds very similar to how my fiance and I got started in anal exploration. And now we’re doing all kinds of wild things.
My best advice is to express what you expressed to us. How much of a turn on it is. How you got so wet from it. Any and all encouragement will help alleviate any internal insecurities he has about enjoying it.
Find his prostate, learn how to touch it.
That will change his mind