So yea, I (F) have a really big fear of sex, orally and the real way I guess? I have been around sexually things pretty much all my life, I saw Sin City A Dame to Kill For when I was 4 and seen nudity in my many many years on earth and I think it lead me to being really fearful about the idea of doing it.
Im still a virgin and I’ve never masturbated. The idea of things going up into my vagina is really nasty and vomit worthy to me, even if its for medical reasons. I enjoy reading about it though like in books and I look at playboy mags all the time.
Am I normal? I have never been assaulted (at least i think so i have nightmares about it every now and then) so I doubt it’s from that. I just wanna know if ill grow out of it or not cuz personally i think I can go without it but I guess I feel bad? Idk any help or thoughts would mean everything to me and id be forever in debt to you.
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Four? Jeez I’m old. Anyways, masturbating a vulva or having sex does not have to involve any penetration at all. There is no pressure to do anything And you shouldn’t do anything with anyone until you find someone who respects your boundaries and you can trust.
Becareful of porn, it is not normal sex. Sex is a two way thing that can be beautiful, but it also can be done very badly, especially by inexperianced people and selfish people. I think you probably should talk to someone maybe professional about you fears. Don’t be embarrased about sex, at least you recognise your fears.
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