I’m 26f. I’ve had a lot of sexual partners in the past. None of it was a benefit to me because I was using it as a form of SH (I’ve only recently come to realize this).
I grew up going to catholic school for 12 years, so of course, sex was only deemed as bad, along with masturbation being bad as well. Therefore, I never tried it. And when I did, it was just inserting and hoping for the best. Obviously I didn’t get a whole lot of pleasure from that.
My previous relationship lasted 3 years. Sex was good, but didn’t happen often. He also was super weird about toys when I brought it up one time. So I let it go and we never tried anything together.
Fast forward to now, I’ve been in a relationship with a new guy for over a year. He’s bi (and I’ve also figured out I am too) so because of this, we’ve been trying things like pegging which I do enjoy doing and he loves it too. But, it makes me sad because while I do love getting him to that point whether it’s that we’re doing or something else, I feel like I never get mine. He loves on me, kisses me, uses his tongue, goes down on me. He enjoys the few toys we’ve purchased to use on me. However I just feel like I’m not getting there.
Or, maybe I am and I just don’t know it? I guess when you’re first learning about sex everyone expects women’s orgasms to be this huge screaming/moaning deal that lasts forever. I just don’t get that sensation exactly and I’m just confused. Can any of you ladies help? Sorry in advance if this is jumbled or a little confusing :/
1 comment
It’s a common thing that most women don’t climax in conventional sex, most guys don’t try or don’t know how to fully make a girl climax. And as you said that you may not realise your orgasm, that’s not true, you will definitely know that you have, it might be not as intense but definitely recognisable. If you can’t cum from penetration tongue and hands is always a great option. Also you mentioned you are Bi, girl can make a girl climax in the best way, try that with your bf if you both are open to it.