This is a very bad habit that I developed throughout childhood. A lot of times I just completely zoned out even when someone is talking to me and don’t even realize it. It doesn’t help that I’ve been told I have a very serious face/demeanor. I feel like I creep people out or intimidate them even though I really don’t mean to.
Any advice on how to fix this?
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Same here, I’ve learned to live with it.
Try talking to a doctor if you can. I have the exact same issues growing up, i was always daydreaming and it ended up being ADD.
At first try better eating/dieting, good orderly sleep, mindfulness practice, try all the other things that may be a deficit that’s related.
Like throughout the day I feel tired, lethargic, fluctuating moods, but if I ate healthy, and exercised I’d I guess military ready, soldiers stance at every challenge throughout the day with good energy.
As someone who’s had ADD their entire life, I’ve dealt with this issue and know it can be frustrating. Here’s how to fix it…
So the underlying problem here is not staying present/focused on the moment. A thought pops into your head, you get distracted, and then go down a rabbit hole of thoughts and completely forget about the conversation you’re having.
Meditation will help significantly with this. The entire practice is based on staying focused on the moment and being aware of your thoughts. No one ever wants to do it but it’s honestly the single best thing you can do for mental health/focus/positive thinking. The Headspace app is a great way to get started and you can start with just 5 minutes a day.
Hope that helps, good luck!
It’s a form of dissociation. You may want to enlist a counselor to figure out why you do it and how you can stop. I tried to fight it myself for years as an adult. I daydreamed to survive a traumatic childhood, but in adulthood it really interfered in relationships, hobbies and work. I finally got assessed and diagnosed with an ongoing anxiety disorder and unresolved trauma.
I don’t do it nearly as much anymore. I can pay full attention to my friends when they are talking to me. I am more productive at work, and I don’t feel emotionally exhausted every day. I really recommend the therapy route. I was skeptical it could help me, but it really did.