I’m in my 30s, 6’2-‘6’3 285lb i’m a BHM, As a young person i never had trouble dating but as of the the past decade i been more of a hermit and not as social, I recently decided to get back into dating hoping i would maybe meet someone cool I’m not even really focusing on the relationship aspect of things just a someone i can call a friend.
So i signup for FB Dating and my very first match was rude AF, To put things into perspective she was very beautiful i merely complimented her eyes and she went full psycho on me saying that “the feeling isn’t mutual” and proceeded to make fun of my glasses, weight etc. at which point i was convinced it was a catfish/guy or something so i moved on…
Next match was a female barber, Which caught my eye because i’ve been searching for a decent barber for awhile now; Nevertheless her profile was also offering her services, When i message her inquiring about examples of her cuts, She goes full on rage mode on me dissing my barber and attempting to insinuate that i have a receding hairline when that’s far from the truth; If anything i have too much hair on my forehead and a widows peak, It was just…weird.
These 2 scenarios have left a terrible taste in my mouth, Like is this really how online dating is in 2022? For a minute i thought i was overreacting but after discussing it with a few friends, I don’t think i am. I realize i’m just venting now but i’m hoping Reddit has some suggestions/tips for sites to try etc.
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im 6′ 3” and 288lbs right now. im not having similar issues. and even when i was bigger i havent had a hard time dating. it was easier when i slimmed down, yes. but if you understanding dating your weight shouldnt hurt you much, especially when youre tall
As a bigger guy its been my experience that A lot of women will match with you just to insult you. No intention of anything else they do it on the first or 2nd comment.
All of you are describing my exact type- any of you still single???????
This is a really small sample size and this has nothing to do with you being a bigger guy, IMO. Some people are assholes, online especially, when they think they can hide behind a screen. Online dating takes thick skin and it sounds like you just had the misfortune of dealing with 2 total duds
If you’re also bearded *and* heavily tattooed… hi from NYC 😬