I went on one date with a guy (28F) and the topic of dating other people came up over today. I said I like dating one person at a time and I wouldn’t like it if whoever I’m seeing dated others while seeing me. He said that’s a bit much for him but he wants to keep seeing me. Is this a crazy expectation to have, or was the crazy thing just verbalizing it too soon? I typically mention this about 4-5 dates in, so I feel weird about it, but now that it’s out in the open, I feel like I’d be really offended if he happened to see someone.
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Hey. Nothing wrong with that. It is what u expect so be honest.
Nothing crazy about that. It does seem like the times are changing and it’s becoming less and less usual though
I think it’s a good thing that he’s being honest up front – rather than assuming – and waiting 4-5 dates.
If you want to only be talking to one person at a time and expect the same you will have trouble finding that. It’s kind of a social norm that it’s okay to be going on dates with whomever you’d like until committing to exclusivity. If this is important to you, then yeah I would mention it fairly early on.